Patrick Cobban

Patrick Gerald Cobban, 70, passed away on January 25, 2025, in Missoula, Montana. He was born on March 17, 1954, in Culbertson, Montana, the seventh child of Gerald and Blanche Cobban, farmers in eastern Montana.

Patrick's life was one of extraordinary challenges and even greater triumphs. At birth, he was diagnosed with severe cerebral palsy. In an era when understanding of the condition was limited, doctors predicted he would not live long and advised his parents not to become attached. But Patrick defied every expectation. Though he was never formally educated, his intelligence, keen awareness, and deep emotional intuition shone through in ways far beyond conventional communication.

Despite being unable to speak or control his limbs with precision, Patrick developed his own way of expressing himself. He used his eyes, facial gestures, and sounds to convey humor, love, and understanding. He had a way of making people feel genuinely seen and valued.

At just 11 years old, Patrick met Linda, the love of his life, while they were both living in an institution in Boulder, Montana. Their connection was immediate and enduring. Reuniting in their early 20s, they pursued a life of independence that was groundbreaking for people with disabilities. On June 20, 1980, Patrick and Linda were married, proving to the world that love, determination, and partnership can overcome even the greatest obstacles. Together, they carved out a life in Missoula, living in their own apartment, managing their own finances, purchasing, painting, and taking care of their beloved rainbow bus, setting an example of what is possible for people with severe disabilities when given the opportunity to thrive.

Patrick and Linda were inseparable, always ready for an adventure. Whether it was cruising the streets of Missoula in their motorized chairs, pushing the limits of both distance and terrain or engaging in impromptu games of hide-and-seek across town. Patrick had a playful spirit and was all for taking risks and pushing the boundaries that others placed on him. Before Linda had a motorized chair, Patrick would pull her behind his own chair as they explored together, and on several occasions, they pushed things too far and got stuck or ran out of batteries. But that only built up his resilience and never dissuaded him.

Patrick had a wonderful sense of humor. His laughter was infectious, and he was quick to give it. He had a playfulness that would appear almost like teasing, except he couldn't talk, but he had mastered the mischievous grin and twinkle in his eye. Somehow, he would craft a playful banter with Linda that made his wit unmistakable. He was a deeply caring person, always attuned to Linda's needs, watching over her with unwavering love and devotion.

Patrick had a passion for being part of his community. He loved people-watching. He thrived at local events and found joy in helping others. He got a lot of joy in towing around a wagon behind his chair to help collect trash at the city park lunch events or assist people at the food bank.

One of the most remarkable things about Patrick was his unwavering perseverance and his attitude in the face of immense challenges. Every task he undertook was painstakingly difficult and slow. He navigated his wheelchair using only his chin, relied on yes-or-no questions to communicate, hoping others would ask the right ones, and faced constant obstacles in even the simplest daily activities, like changing the TV channel. But Patrick didn't just endure difficulty; he sought out challenges. He pursued painting by wearing a helmet with a paintbrush attached, carefully guiding each stroke with his head and neck. He played complex video games by maneuvering a mouse with his chin, patiently waiting for it to register a click after hovering in one spot. In the midst of what could have been overwhelming frustration, Patrick leaned in. He worked harder, learned more, and, most of all, laughed often.

Patrick's life was a testament to resilience, love, and the power of the human spirit. He leaves behind a legacy of joy, humor, and inspiration. To those who knew him, he was more than his challenges. He was a beacon of light, a devoted husband, and a cherished friend.

Patrick is survived by his beloved wife, Linda, and a community that was forever changed by his presence.

A celebration of life will be held in his honor at Revive Church Missoula, on Saturday March 8th at 1pm.

Patrick's story reminds us all that love and determination can defy expectations and that a life well-lived is measured not by limitations but by the joy and connection shared with others.